I've spent far too many weekends thinking I needed rest when in fact what I needed was a walk on the beach on the other coast. And when a friend said "shall we?" and we did walk there, it was incredibly rewarding.... I might think I need to rest on the sofa, but the truth is that doesn't make me feel like my weekend was great. It gives me rest, yes. But it doesn't feed my soul.
It seems like a bunch of things we do are not a "heck yeah".
So I've been thinking a lot about how we spend our free time and if that's actually rewarding. I think outside tends to work for me (weather permitting). An adventure. Something outside of what I'd get to see in the week. A beach. A forest walk. Connection with friends. Because when I stay put, it isn't satisfying. It doesn't quite make me feel like I had "me time".
There's no amount of Netflix or Instagram that makes me feel like I'm living my best life, even though those things have a time and a place.
I recently read something online that came from Kyle Manyard and he said "My biggest (time management) shift came from listening to a successful CEO talk about his philosophy for hiring people."
When his company grew and he ran out of time to interview people himself, he had his employees rate new candidate on a 1–10 scale. The only stipulation was that they couldn’t choose 7. "It immediately dawned on me how many invitations I was receiving that I would rate as a 7 — speeches, weddings, coffees, even dates. If I thought something was a 7, there was a good chance I felt obligated to do it. But if I have to decide between a 6 or an 8, it’s a lot easier to quickly determine whether or not I should even consider it.”
Consider this as you think about your weekend ahead. Are you accepting a safe 7? How would excluding that option change your world?
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