I first had this epiphany while reading the New York Times. Many of my epiphanies are really thanks to them as they phrase things I'd never quite thought of or articulated before. This particular article mentioned the author using the word "nevertheless" to preface a positive consequence of something that might have otherwise been seen as a minus. I've used this trick ever since, and I've found it incredibly useful as a way to see things differently.
I used it this morning in fact when I was the only person who showed up to the group run. One person is traveling for work in the UK, another is on a road trip, and the rest of the gang....who knows? I was there at early'o'clock, dressed and ready. I waited the extra time to see if anyone would show, but no-one did.
So I went for a different run. I ran along leafy tree-lined boulevards with swings hanging from the larger branches and kids tricycles parked out the front of the houses. I ran up a beautiful hill to city views that reward the observer, and I explored a small strip of storefronts that were quiet and closed because of the early time of day. I ran in one direction to check out the new osteria/wine bar that I had heard about, verified that it was in fact on that street, and then about-turned and found another tree-lined street to explore.
It was a great run. It was the perfect pace, and peaceful. Do I love the company of my run club? Absolutely. Nevertheless, I had a great time taking little-known cut throughs that lead to the next block over and changing the route when something else caught my eye.
Sometimes you make your own fun. You never know when you'll need to. When I arrived home, my partner asked how my run was.
"It was great," I said.
"I like it when others are there, nevertheless it was a beautiful morning for a run.
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